You really, really still love your ex and want him or her back, why else would you be reading this page?

 

You've probably been told, exes are exes for a reason, that people never get back together once they break up, and that there are many fish in the sea. But you still want your ex back, you love him/her.

 

I'm here to tell you, shake off all the negativity and nay-sayers.

 

I've seen two people who still have strong feelings for each other find their way back to each other. I've seen relationships that no one thought had a chance blossom again. I've seen people who called it off but realized they made a huge mistake get another chance. I've seen it happen, because I helped make it happen!

 

If you've done the begging, pleading, apologizing, writing long love letters, sending gifts and promising your ex all sorts of things, but only came across as needy, desperate, and even "crazy" -- or may be your ex told you he/she never wants anything to do with you, don't give up just yet. Not yet!

 

There is a very high possibility that the way you have been approaching the situation is ineffective -- and even unconstructive.

 

Certain actions cause more distance between you and your ex. Let me go through a few of them.

"I'll change" or "I’ve changed" move -- Your ex may want you to change some aspects of yourself that caused him or her to walk away from the relationship, but saying "I'll change" or "I’ve changed" screams desperation, which is never attractive. No one likes hearing that you "changed" for them. They don't like feeling that they owe you something because you did something for them.

 

"I want us to have a better relationship."  -- Consider that statement for a moment. If you could not make the relationship better before, what makes you think your ex will believe you are sincere in making it work now?

"I have suggestions to improve the relationship."  -- Good luck with that! Your ex may listen attentively but next time you talk to him or her, they still say there is 'something missing' or they 'don’t think it will work. And if your ex is still angry and resentful towards you for any reason, everything you suggest will be shot down immediately.

"I just want us to be friends." -- You may think this statement seems harmless because it would allow you to openly communicate with your ex while keeping enough distance to rekindle what was lost. However, your ex may assume that all you really want is to just be friends. In the end you only make it harder for yourself because when you attempt to get back together he/she may throw it in your face or feel deceived.

Now, you may be thinking it is then best to say and do nothing at all. Not contact your ex for x number of weeks/months and see what happens.

Realistic strategy? Let's do a reality check.

Scenario 1 -- You don't contact your ex and your ex doesn't contact you either.

You both move on.

Scenario 2 -- You don't contact your ex and your ex contacts you. Nice!

You respond, they respond... then suddenly... they stop contacting you. You contact them several times and... NO CONTACT. Ha ha ha! Tables turned!

Not funny!

Scenario 3 -- You don't contact your ex for sometime... and then you contact him/her!

He or she responds... but only to tell you they've MOVED ON (may be with someone else!) or responds every now and then but it's like you are bothering him/her or something.

Like it or not, this is the reality of No Contact!

Thinking that your ex will miss you because you're no longer contacting them is admirable confidence. We all want to believe our ex is pinning over us and spending much of their time thinking of us. That would really be nice!

But mind games are not appealing to everyone, and your ex may either be turned off or play along to teach you a lesson.

A woman emailed me in tears. She had emailed one of those "No Contact" script emails to her ex. He wrote back "I completely agree. This relationship was so toxic that any kind of contact now or ever will pull us back to what we both don't want. I'll work on myself as you continue to work on yourself. We will both attract better people as a result. I wish you all the best in life. Please do not ever contact me again. Thank you very much".

Ooops! That's not what she expected -- and definitely NOT what she wanted!

 

You take yourself out of the picture, you leave your ex no option but to learn to live without you. Over time your ex's life begins to change... he or she is meeting new friends... doing new things... going out to new places...etc.

You come back after your "No Contact" ...  A LOT has happened and changed!




1. But why would you want to start over when you can try to fix the old relationship? What can a fresh start do that you can't do with the old relationship?

 

You have a romantic history together. Your ex knows you, or at least thinks he or she knows the person he or she thinks you are. He/she is still looking at you and the possibility of a better relationship based on the past.

 

Starting all-over gives you the opportunity to introduce yourself to your ex again. Not the "old you" but the "new you".

 

You've had time to think about things you shouldn't have done but did, and things you should have done, but didn't. You've made some changes for the better, and you now realize more than ever how important your ex is to you.

 

Your ex doesn't know all that!

 

2. But how do you get to know each other again when you've already been in a relationship, may be even lived together, married or have kids?

 

Get your ex looking forward to the future again. Not back at the past which trying to mend a damaged relationship tends to do.

 

More than any approach or strategy, starting over is the practice that creates real results. It is not only a more effective way to achieve your goal, it is also the fastest.


Before I go any further, I want you to read some of the things people are saying about the effectiveness of Dating Your Ex approach to getting your ex back...
 

 


It's fantastic... insightful... to the point...

My ex and I have been doing the on and off thing for about two years and 2 months. We split and got back back together 3 times. A year and a half ago, we broke up again and I guess we both had had enough and decided that it was never going to work out.

Days after reading your e-Book, I called her. We went out and I told her I've been reading "Dating Your Ex" and many things in the e-Book made me realize how I could have done things differently with her. She came over to my place and we talked. I asked her if she wanted to give it another chance but she said that she didn't know yet. She left and told me she'd get back to me in a few days. After a week of not hearing from her, I called her but she didn't take my call and didn't reply to any of my emails. She sent me one short email saying "Working through some stuff. Will get back to you in a few days". I must admit I was a little ticked off. Exactly two weeks and four days later, she showed up at my doorstep. Her exact words when I opened the door were, "True love overcomes all the three!" Apparently she went and bought your e-Book too .

She's definitely THE ONE! I don't feel like I am dating my ex, I feel like I am dating a new woman! We're both better people from before and our relationship has never been this great.

I highly recommend Christine's e-Book. It's fantastic, insightful... to the point.

Alberto Gonzales - Windsor, Ontario, Canada
 


The guidance and wisdom in this eBook
will help anyone

My boyfriend and I communicated only briefly just after he broke it off with me.  I was in so much pain that I completely cut off contact because that's what I read in other "get your ex back" books. And although I should have known better than to go down that road, I was so desperate to do anything to get him back.  That didn't do it, so I thought distance will, and moved to another state. But after reading your e-Book, I realized that keeping my distance, pretending that I had moved on and not telling him where I was and how I felt was the wrong thing to do. I had given him plenty of reason to fall out of love with me and here I was doing exactly the things that made us break-up. 

I did wonder though, if I stayed away too long and if he had gotten  used to not seeing or hearing from me.  I followed your advice on how to re-enter his life, and after four weeks of "friendly but not just friends", I felt --just as you wrote -- that the timing for telling him I want him back was right.  I was scared to death that he'd not want me back, so I took the "indirect-direct approach".  Everything I wanted to tell him for the last 16-months we've been apart came rushing out. Again I followed your advice and ended with "What do you want to see happen?" He took my hand kissed it and told me he never stopped loving me.

I have since moved back to California and our relationship has returned to exactly how it was when we first began dating -- even better.

The guidance and wisdom in this e-Book will help anyone, even the person who is actively dating and looking for love because most likely along the way they'll make some mistakes and lose the love they found. It doesn't hurt to be prepared!

Jenn C. - Huntington Beach, California, United States
 

 

Not Just Another "Get Back Your Ex " Book!


Some ideas look really good in theory and any advice can look good on paper, but in practise it may not work near as well or even at all.

 

Using the principles of emotional intelligence and effectiveness, Dating Your Ex:


You'll know exactly when and how to make contact with your ex in an emotionally impact-full way, know what to say and how to act in ways that demonstrate to your ex that you're a better person and a better partner, and as a result they can expect a better relationship.

Some of the most difficult to negotiate through aspects of the process covered in the book include:
 

re-establishing contact and re-introducing yourself to your ex

What to do if there has been so much damage done to the relationship

Managing contact with your ex in ways that help move things forward faster

How to act on phone and when you meet face-to-face for the first time

How to show your ex that you have changed and deserve another chance
What to do and how to act when your ex wants space

Winning back your ex even when there is someone else

When and how to talk about getting back together without creating any pressure

How to handle things if your ex wants to be "just friends"

What to say and do when your ex wants more time to decide

Handling the pull and push phase

How to persistently push forward when things are moving too slowly

Red flags your ex is stringing you along/using you

...And much more...

What About If An ex says he/She Still Loves You BUT...
He/She Is Not In Love With You Anymore,
Can The EBook Still Work For This Situation?

YES. The advice is the eBook works with an ex back who says he/she no longer feels that "excitement" of the earlier days.

But I'll be very honest with you. It will take more work and longer to get him/her back. But it can be done -- and has been done!

See, when the feeling of being in love (excitement) is still there, it means he/she has NOT lost interest in you as a person. What it means is that, for whatever number of reasons, he lost interest in being in the relationship. Your ONLY challenge is to get him/her interested in the relationship, again.

But when that feeling of excitement is gone (he/she has lost interest in you as a romantic interest), your challenge is two-fold. 1) get him/her to again be interested in you and 2) get him/her interested in a relationship with you.

If there were negative feelings (anger reactions, words said or things done, acting needy and pathetic etc) during and after the break-up, your challenge is three-fold. 1) get him/her to want to talk to you, 2) get him/her interested in you again and 3) get him/her interested in a relationship with you.

Dating Your Ex addresses 1) re-establishing contact, 2) getting your ex to warm up to you, and 3) demonstrating in words and actions what it'd be like to be in a relationship with you, if he/she decided to come back.

 


I needed to do things very differently...

Several times I invited my ex out to do things and he declined the offer. It always left me feeling crushed and rejected.

After reading "Dating Your Ex" I thought I'd give it another try using the "cooperation-seeking" approach. He gave me his usual distant and kind of cold brush off, but I did the "there'll be a next time" move and to my utter surprise he said "what do you want to do?". I've never had this kind of reaction from him before. We watched a movie and went for ice cream. Neither of us brought up anything too heavy during conversation, which was cool. As we parted, I asked him if he would like to do something else some time and he said "sure, give me a call". He later called to see if I reached home. He has never called me since we broke up.

I am so glad I never gave up on my ex. Everyone told me he was a no-good jerk but in my heart I knew I was not perfect either. I am concentrating on being a better me and being careful to act sensibly and focusing on the present and the future rather than the past.

Thank you for the good sound and candid advice. I needed to do things very differently. 

Carolynne -- Louisville, Kentucky, United States
 

May be You Think Your Relationship is so damaged That It Is too Late For You...

Damaged... may be.  Too late... may be not?

We all have said things and done things we wish we had not said or done. So yes, may be you've made so many mistakes or may it just seems like the love is gone and there is nothing you can do about it.

But it doesn't necessarily mean you can't turn things around! Love can be beat up by so many things going on in the relationship. It can grow weak due to failure to nurture it. But if you're willing to do whatever it takes to give it a chance to flourish again, it CAN and it WILL.

May be you're thinking "You just don't know my ex. Nothing will work."

And you're right! I don't know your ex the way you do. And may be s/he is really angry with you... but that's exactly where you need to start...

Dating Your Ex tells you exactly how to deal with an angry ex, one who wants no contact, one who still loves you but is resisting his or her feelings, one who is setting up roadblock after roadblock...
 

 


This is the best advice I have found! 

I have read your eBook and I love it!  It is the best advice I have found. EVER! And believe me, I have been looking because I have been divorced 3 times and I wanted to stay married this last time, but didn't make it happen.  I made all the mistakes possible.  Now, we are dating.  I started to make the same mistakes again and, fortunately I downloaded the eBook.  Now, I know it is possible that we might get back together, and before reading it, it was guaranteed that we wouldn't just based on my stupid and needy behavior.  How can I help you get the eBook out there even more?  It's so worth it.

Susan
 

 

I guess the big question on your mind is,
“Why should I believe you?”
 

I have the KNOWLEDGE and I have practical hands-on EXPERIENCE!
 

 

Hi, my name is Yangki Christine Akiteng a.k.a Toronto's Number 1 Date Doctor a.k.a. The Dating Your Ex Coach. 

 

I'm just one of the many authors of "Get Back Your Ex Back" books-- and we are many! If you do a little check up, you'll find that many of these books are written by men and women who have good theories and good intentions (besides money, of course), but very few of these authors have the practical hands-on-knowledge and experience uniting couples.

 

With Dating Your Ex, you have the benefit of not just the knowledge of "how to get your ex back" but PRACTICAL EXPERIENCE of what works in REAL LIFE -- and what doesn't.This is an e-Book written by a real practicing successful Relationships Coach with REAL success in love reunions. 

 

The Right ACTION...the Right PACE...
In The Right DIRECTION

 

This is probably the only eBook on getting your ex back (I know. I researched) that's more focused exclusively on balancing drawing the other person close and giving him or her the space he or she needs.

While there is no magic formula for success getting your ex back, there are essential elements that contribute to eventually making your ex want to come back.

With Dating Your Ex, you are not just experimenting with some theories about what it takes to get one's ex back, you are actually working with concepts backed up by real-life experiences.

Not only will Dating Your Ex eBook help you figure out what your ex really wants and then give it to him or her, you will be able to make timely, well-considered and love-motivated decisions and choose the best action possible with the information you have available.
 


Worth every penny!

I bought your e-Book and read all of it in one night. The next day, I called my ex and asked him to meet me for coffee. We hadn’t seen or spoken to each other since he broke up with me last month. He was a little cold at first but I followed your advice on persisting without being aggressive and he agreed. I again followed your advice on introducing the idea of getting back together and he said that he didn’t think I have changed in such a short time but was ready to be friends for a start.

At first I was the one who called him and he never called me unless I called him, so again I used your advice on drawing someone into the decision making process. He started to call me instead of me calling him all the time. He has asked me out two times in a row. He says I am a “different” woman because I am more relaxed and not putting pressure on him to do what I now know will happen naturally. I am following your advice on keeping the relationship fresh, fun and meaningful. Everything you wrote in your e-Book has worked this far, I am confident that everything else is going to work too. I will email you again in a few weeks to tell you how things are going.

Thank you very much. Worth every penny!

Dr. Armando- Toronto, Ontario, Canada
 

Is There Someone Else In The Picture?
Let That Not Discourage You...

Most people when they hear that their ex is looking around or now seeing someone new feel hopeless.

But your situation may not feel as as hopeless once you have a clear, actionable and proven step-by-step plan for attracting back back your loved one. A whole chapter is committed to dealing with the presence of someone new in your ex's life. The "emotional tools" in the eBook help you face the process with more confidence, but more than that they show you how to renew the attraction your ex had for you despite there being someone new in your ex's life.
 

Not Even Distance Should Stop You...

 

Dating Your Ex works even for long distance relationships -- another city, state, country or continent! 

 

While you may not be able to physically be there with your ex, you will be able to establish proactive communication which offers a sense of bonding and creates a yearning that makes seeing each other again all the more appealing!

 
 


It worked for my long distance relationship!

I would like to thank you for your book. Before I bought it, I did wonder if it would work or not. Because of my complete lack of experience, the woman I love had not spoken to me in 4 months. We got into a fight and it got down and dirty. I wasn’t respecting her need for relationship security and she wasn't respecting my need for freedom.  So the break-up was mutual. But I kept seeing her at parties and I felt as if there was still something there. 

I read your e-Book and realized that to get her back I had to learn how to be emotionally intimate with her and not fear to speak my mind and ask for what I want directly, something I really struggled with before. I followed your advice and got my ex back.

No one ever explained emotional intimacy to me the way you  explained it. I totally get it now. We are both getting exactly what we wanted from each other. Our bond has grown stronger and laughter flows easily.

I wholeheartedly recommend this e-Book. It hit home on many of the topics that I've struggled with, or needed more info on ... I think you have compiled a great resource, in a very straight forward nuts and bolts book.

Drew H. - Atlanta, Georgia, United States
 

You have to know what you are doing
TO SUCCEED!

If you're doing everything you can to get your ex back, but getting the exact opposite results, chances are you're making things worse and could potentially completely kill any chance you might have had.

Not giving up on love is not just a matter of pressing forward, you have to make sure what you are doing is working otherwise doing what's not working can cause more damage to any chances of reconciliation.
 

Many men and women when I tell them that you need a plan of action if you want to get your ex back ask me “why can’t I just call him/her up and tell him/her I want him/her back? Isn’t life all about taking risks?”

You can jump off the 20th Floor of a building believing that life is all about taking risks but what are your chances of survival? One out of a zillion.

But if you had some kind of parachute or an action plan that would guarantee you that you'd land safely on your two feet, wouldn't you take the risk, enjoy the ride and land safely?

 
 


Positive good advice is exactly what I needed!

I received an email from him yesterday saying he missed me, and I have been thinking about it ever since. I have reasons to be cheerful. This is the second time in two days he has emailed me saying he enjoys spending time with me again.

This e-Book is a complete contrast to almost everything I have done to try to get back my ex in the last six weeks. The advice is overwhelmingly positive compared to all the negative advice I’ve be getting about second chances and being told he is not that into me. I could actually feel your love and genuine caring in each and every page! Positive good advice is exactly what I needed!

My chances seem really good and I am excited thinking, “what next? May be he is reconsidering his options". I am however not rushing into interpretation of the sudden change. Right now I am just glad for the time together.

This makes so much sense to me, guess why a lot of my relationships before my ex, and since my ex have been 2 months duration in total, cause I would wear it out in the beginning. Well, now I am learning to take a step back, and let love be a slow process.

Yvette - Holliston, Massachusetts, United States
 

Your Break-Up Can Become The Beginning Of
The Relationship You Always Wanted!

 

You've probably been told that it is a bad idea to get back with an ex. That an ex is an ex for a reason. That there are many fish in the sea. That second and third chances never happen. That you are a fool for wanting your ex back.

You've heard it all, but you still want to try because you still love your ex and you still miss him/her very much. You could go find yourself someone else, but you don't want someone else. You want your ex back.

 

If there are things – good, bad, and ugly – about your ex that still warm your heart (and, um, loins?), if you can remember more good than bad things about the time you were together, give love a chance!!

This new chapter of your relationship can be even more exciting and fulfilling than the last one!

To put it simply, if you’re serious about winning back the heart of your ex, this eBook gives you the knowledge and practical tools you need to make your ex feel those feelings of love again, even if (right now) you are the only one who is willing to work on the relationship!
 


I recommend this book to anyone currently contemplating giving up...

My girlfriend of 2 yrs and I got back together last night. We broke up 6 weeks ago but continued hanging out together because we really enjoy each other’s company and we are best friends. We were friends before we became lovers and I NEVER thought she would dump me.  She frequently told me that I was "the one" and that we would always be together. But she dumped me!!

Needless to say, I was crushed and I tried everything (WUSS) and it didn't work. All I got from her was "You are a great guy, but I'm not in love with you".

At this point, I just realized all hope was lost and started working on moving on. That's when I came across your website.  I bought your e-Book and followed every step. Last night she stayed at my place and we sat from around midnight to morning talking about “us”. We just kissed and held hands. She was surprised that her toothbrush was still in the holder on the sink. She told me she wants to get back together and to let whatever happens, happen.

I recommend this book to anyone who is currently contemplating giving up the hopes of getting their ex back.

Kenny -- West Des Moines, Iowa, United States
 
 

 

Will You be able to Have closure if You
walk away right now?...

Don’t give up”, “Don't stop trying”. You probably hear this all the time. When people say it, they make it sound so easy. All too often, what they mean is that all you have to do is stubbornly refuse to quit or take “no” for an answer. Just hang in there, and somehow things will work themselves out to your favour.

What happens when you combine a slippery road and a downhill slope? Skidding.

There’s more to “giving it all you can” than just having a “never give up” attitude. Dating Your Ex helps you make several changes to your thinking so that you can focus all your energy even past the point where everyone else would give up.

 


Anything is possible despite how things look at the moment...

Two months ago I could never have believed that we could be back together. My ex told me he wanted nothing to do with me and he was moving on, even started dating another woman.

And for weeks I was wallowing around in confusion. I wasn't sure what to do next.  Then I came across your e-Book. I did exactly the stuff that you talked about and I attracted him back into my life.

To everyone there, I just want to say everything is possible despite how things look at the moment.  Read Christine's book, it's amazing and her advice really works. Thank you so much.

Darlene S. Vancouver British Columbia Canada
 


Even If Right Now Your Ex Is Unwilling...

 

Getting your ex back is easier when your ex is open to the possibility. But this may not be the case for you... at least not in the beginning.


 Dating Your Ex shows you how to change your ex's attitude even if your ex says they don't think it'll work:
 

Turn the conversation around and capture your ex's attention and affection.

Diffuse your ex's anger and resentment by showing your ex that you “get it.

Initiate small conversations without stirring up confrontation.
Keep calm and in control of your emotions even if your ex makes you angry.

End the unhelpful behaviours and replace them with positive actions.

Using the real-time strategies in my eBook, you can start correcting the problems caused by earlier misguided words and actions, open up new possibilities, regain your ex's trust, melt objections away and truly, deeply engage your ex starting from day one!
 

Your ex's perception of you and the relationship is based on past experience. He or she doesn't know that you have made changes and become a better boy/girlfriend or partner.

The sooner you get your ex to envision a better relationship with you, the sooner you Get back together!

In Dating Your Ex, I've made sure that you are working on both fronts 1) bringing something new and better and 2) effectively communicating a vision of a better relationship.

No more acting all desperate, needy, clingy -- and pushing your ex even farther away.

Dating Your Ex shows you how to communicate your intentions clearly and assertively, manage expectations and focus on your longer term goal of getting your ex back in your arms -- and life!

No more trying this and trying that to see if it works!

Dating Your Ex guides you through the many challenges and obstacles that are bound to come up.

No more wasting weeks and months unsure if you even have a chance!

Dating Your Ex provides a number of simple ways to track how well you are doing. You will have a fairly good idea as to whether you are actually making progress -- or not. That's very important!
 



 

 
 

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