Dating Your Ex is written by a hands-on Relationships Coach with REAL LIFE SUCCESS helping men and women get their ex back.

I wanted to write to you to thank you. I broke up with my boyfriend of a year about 3 weeks ago. And I was devastated. A lot of my friends gave me advice about what to do (to forget him, use NC, etc.). I also read articles and bought a book that used manipulation and tricks to make your ex miss you and come running back. Through reading and searching the internet I came across your site. And after reading just one of your articles, I made the decision to buy your book, Dating your Ex, which I read twice :). I realized that I wanted my ex back but I wanted him back because he loved me not because of any tricks. And by using your effective contacting, and other methods, we started talking. And now we are back together! We are back because we love and care about each other. And we are going to do this right! A million thanks for you positivity and amazing advice!


  • Just wanted to thank you for being the voice of sanity in a sea of stupid, bad advice for repairing broken relationships. My breakup happened because he was afraid of feelings and commitment. Mainstream advice and all of my friends would have had me walking away from a perfectly wonderful person. Now we are back together, and I am very happy. Just wanted to say thanks.


  • I am not far into your book and it is already bringing me a great deal of peace. Your writing is clear and simple. From what I've read already I can tell that the techniques in the book will bring me happiness with or without efforts to see my ex, C, again. Thanks.

  • I won't bore you with a long, really complicated story. Suffice it to say that we were together, I'm very needy and he's very passive aggressive (talk about toxicity in spades) and it didn't work out.

    Break up was absolutely nasty and brutal and looong.

    We remained friendly. And one day I picked up your book and read it and read it. He and I were barely speaking at that point (from both ends). I followed a lot of it, and to my amazement, he started actually TELLING me what he wanted. Since then we've been talking more and more.

    Will we get back together? I have no idea. I don't know that I even want to. But we were always really good friends and it's lovely to no longer feel pressured and as though I must have done something wrong everytime things don't go exactly right. Thank you.

  • First of all, thank you so much! My ex is now my boyfriend again, and I truly believe it is because of the very blunt and truthful advice I read within hours of being broken up with. We became friends again, and over time we saw that we wanted to be together and missed one another very much. The best advice I had received was about being true to myself and really looking at the way I was acting and what my then ex had been thinking or what he wanted. I had never ever thought about my wants and needs vs my significant others wants and needs. Not only has my relationship improved with my now boyfriend, but I feel that I carried that advice into all relationships (work, family, friends etc.) You are an honest, and amazing person with such insight that helped me realize who I am. Thank you.

  • Yangki, I just wanted to say I love your eBook (and I love you). For 6mos. I tried to get my ex back with tactics and dirty games and only ended up making things worse. I bought your eBook, and the steps were so simple, yet I had missed them all this time. Last mo. my ex and I got back together. Iím so grateful to you in ways that youíll never know.

  • Yangki, I want to first of all say thank you. Three months ago, I found your blog and bought your ebook at a time when I had lost all hope because I didnít know where to start. I contacted my ex and slowly he started to respond to me even when he had said he didnít see us working out. Start of September he finally admitted that he still had strong feelings for me and was willing to give us another chance. Technically we are back together and I have you to thank for it.


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Many men and women are genuinely surprised when their strategies for getting their ex back do not work -- and sometimes even backfire.

Like in the case of a client who called me in tears. She had sent her ex one of those "no contact" scripts.

He wrote back "I completely agree. This relationship is so toxic that any kind of contact now or ever will pull us back to what we both don't want. I'll work on myself as you continue to work on yourself. We will both attract better people as a result. I wish you all the best in life. Please do not ever contact me again. Thank you very much".

Ooops! That's not what she expected -- and definitely NOT what she wanted!


Like so many strategies that create distance rather than connection, No Contact is not designed to get back your ex. It's for you to move on.

Outside of the internet and books, this is how it works in real life.

Scenario 1 -- You don't contact your ex, and your ex doesn't contact you either. You both move on.

Scenario 2 -- You don't contact your ex and your ex contacts you. Nice! You respond, they respond... then suddenly... they stop contacting you. You contact them several times and... no response.

Scenario 3 -- You don't contact your ex for some time... and then you contact him/her and he/she responds... but only to tell you he/she has moved on (may be with someone else!), or your ex responds every now and then but it's like you are bothering him/her or something.

By cutting off all contact, you are taking yourself out of the picture. You leave your ex no option but to learn to live without you.

Over time your ex's life begins to change... he/she is meeting new friends... doing new things... going to new places...etc.

You come back after your "no contact"...  A LOT has happened and changed! You don't fit into his/her "new life", or someone else has taken your place.

If you want your ex back, you have to do what creates a stronger connection, not more disconnection

When it comes to getting back your ex, the "RIGHT" action is very important.

Unlike other "get your ex" books that encourage you to avoid contact or play mind games, Dating Your Ex focuses almost exclusively on getting your ex talking so you can learn more, listen more, figure out what is driving his/her thought process, and reap the benefits that come with that knowledge.

Understanding what motivates your ex, what causes him or her to go warm and cold, or what is keeping him or her away from getting back together is crucial.

I've worked with couples in struggling relationships, couples trying to get back together, men and women who've been dumped because they acted needy and clingy, and men and women who dumped their ex because they felt smothered and suffocated.

I know first hand the thought processes that influence how each side thinks about the other, and how they will react to certain words or actions.

I've put all this knowledge together in away that makes it easier to take action without too much hand wringing, and make faster progress without too much time spent over thinking and second -guessing yourself.


You may be thinking, "But I've tried everything and nothing worked!"

Nothing has worked because doing something... anything... isnít the same thing as doing the right thing.

Pouring out the contents of your heart to your ex won't change anything. Your ex already knows you love him/her, why else would you be trying to get him/her back?

And telling your ex over and over that you have changed is like flashing a "don't believe me" sign.

See, you have a romantic history together. Your ex knows you, or at least thinks he or she knows the person he or she thinks you are. He/she is still looking at you and a future with you based on the past.

That's not right. You've had time to think about things you shouldn't have done but did, and things you should have done, but didn't. You've made some changes for the better, and you now realize more than ever how important your ex is to you, but your ex doesn't know all that.


It has worked for many, it can work for you!

You're not just working with a theory, but knowledge and experience gathered from years of hard work, one-on-one consultations with real people going through what you are going through, scientific research -- and refining what works, how and when.

This makes a huge difference in terms of the confidence you will have in yourself and in what you are doing.

You will not be just reacting to what your ex says or does, but choosing how to respond with more appropriate actions that bring you closer and closer to getting back your ex.


It doesn't matter that you've made many mistakes, what matters is that you are willing to do things differently, and do better.

Some of my favourite emails are from men and women who say they bought Dating Your Ex not sure that it'd work. They had bought many other "get your ex" books and they didn't work. But from the moment they started reading Dating Your Ex, they felt more hopeful. For some, they could for the very first time really see that possibility opening up.

When they started putting the advice into practice, it was no longer just a possibility. It was reality!
 What the book said would happen, was actually happening.

You might be asking yourself the same question, "How do I know that I'll get my ex back?"

It's actually a good question to ask. The truth is you donít know. No matter how smart we may be, we cannot predict the future! This is why I don't promise you "sure fire ways that'll get back your ex in 1 Week", or "secrets guaranteed to make your ex come back crawling and begging" etc. I trust you to know the difference between a sales pitch and genuine desire to be of help.

BUT while I can't predict with 100% accuracy whether or not you'll get back your ex, I know the sub-conscious thought processes that influence your ex's actions and the  specific steps that give you the best possible chance of getting your ex back.

I show you how not only to draw your ex in, but also how to re-ignite that feeling of being in love again. This is especially important if your ex says he/she still loves you but is not in love with you, says he/she wants to take things slowly, says he/she wants to be "just friends" or if there is someone else in your ex's life.

Throughout the process, I'll be literally holding your hand and leading you step by step. You will feel confident handling the "let's get back together" conversation and increase the chances of getting "Yes, I want you back", the very first time you ask your ex for another chance.

Even when you encounter the usual push-pull phase when it feels like you are back together as a couple, but then your ex pulls away, comes back and pulls away again, you will know exactly how to deal with it, and press forward until you get back your ex.


You can't again say, "BUT I don't know what to do!".
Itís all at your fingertips.

Don't be one of those people who gave up -- too quickly -- because they were either too scared that they were setting themselves up for failure or did all the wrong things because they didn't know what else to do. Many of them are living with so much regret.

Don't turn your back on your relationship because you are afraid that you donít know what to do, what to expect or what will work.

Thousands of people are already applying these proven effective strategies and following these exact steps -- and they are seeing the feelings of love begin to come back as they they proceed in progressive stages of getting their ex back.

And now YOU can do the same!


Wait too long... and you'll grow further apart.
Hesitate... your ex will think you've moved. Don't act... someone else will take your place. Give up without a genuine try... and you'll never know for sure...

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